Take Control of Your Life with Personal Leadership

Is this you?

  • You want to exercise personal leadership and take responsibility for yourself and every area of your life.

  • You want to connect to your values and align these with your vision so that you can set meaningful goals for yourself.

  • You want to be more organised, take action, get results, and be supported to achieve success in life.

Each day you have the choice to take control of your life or to let it control you…..

To take control of your life, or exercise personal leadership, is to take responsibility for yourself and every area of your life.

When you align your values with your vision and set meaningful goals for yourself, you will take control, become more productive and more optimistic which will help you to tackle and solve problems more easily and experience less stress in your life.

With all the chaos and uncertainty going on in the world these days it may be difficult to feel like you are in charge of your life, and while there are some things you have no control over, there are plenty that you do.

You are the principal architect and creator of your life and where you are now is a result of the choices and decisions you have made thus far.

See yourself as the CEO of your own life.

  • What type of strategic planning do you engage in?

  • How do you envision your future?

Seeing yourself as the CEO of your life will inspire you to think more productively, efficiently, and in a more result-oriented way.

Some ways in which you can exercise personal leadership:

  1. Determine your values and align them with your vision.

  2. Plan, be organized, and set goals.

  3. Maintain a positive attitude.

  4. Have a problem-solving mindset.

  5. Have fun.

The most successful CEOs in the world, at the best companies, are those who set realistic, achievable goals, plan the best strategies, and then execute them accordingly. They set priorities, organize their tasks and duties, and make sure all the different departments are running smoothly and efficiently by addressing problems as they show up.

Winston Churchill said: ‘He who fails to plan is planning to fail”

Set Boundaries

Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain.

You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

Clear Boundaries

Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration, that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone.

Boundaries are firm lines, determined by you, which cannot be crossed by those around you.

They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

Boundaries Are Not Set to Change

Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people.

They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

Boundaries Are Limits

The purpose of boundaries is to set limits. They are not threats or ultimatums.

They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

Boundaries Inform or Teach

They are not a form of punishment.

10 Steps to Take Control of Your Life

1. Self-Awareness Comes First

Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

2. Clear Communication Is Essential

Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries.

3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

You do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others. Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

5. Take Power Back in Your Job

Try to balance your life between professional and personal areas.

6. Assess the Financial Stress

Unbelievably, almost everyone on this globe is living under some form of financial stress. It is easy to feel that you are losing control if your finances are not in order. Instead of getting stuck in the vicious cycle of debts, reflect and discover what went wrong. Analyzing the fundamental factor responsible for this predicament would help you gain a better insight into finding out what must be done next.

If you are overspending on luxurious products for necessities, then you can try switching to affordable options till you get your finances back on track. Prepare a budget and stick to it. If your current job is insufficient to meet your expenses, consider getting an additional job or finding a new one.

Money is not everything. However, it does give you a feeling of security and a sense of power. Having your finances in order gives you the desired control over life.

7. Outgrow Toxic Relationships

You can only take control of your life if you do not let toxic relationships change the dynamics of your decision-making.

8. Practice Positive Self-Talk

The person you see in the mirror is exactly who you are! If you see a confident, smart, and poised person in that mirror, that’s what your life will turn out to be for you. Positive self-talk is reassuring yourself about your capabilities and achievements! You can take back control of your life when you learn to build a positive image for that person in the mirror.

“Control your thoughts. Decide about which you will think and concentrate upon. You are in charge of your life to the degree you take charge of your thoughts.” – Earl Nightingale

9. Find Your Support System

Everyone needs a support system. This support system might be your friends, family, acquaintance, confidants, or an external group. You need to find a support system to share everything openly. The people in the support system are your go-to people who are dependable and trustworthy. Whether it’s advice you seek or assistance on any other level, you should be able to count on your support system.

10. Reflect on Life

Life goes on even when we stop working or thinking. It is important to look back on your life and recollect exactly what you planned for.

Sometimes, the major reason for losing control is that things did not turn out to be the way they should have been. Allow yourself time to process everything that is happening or happened over a period of time.

There might be habits that you must have formed or taken an undesired path during a particular phase. Check if these habits or activities are the sources of your unhappiness. If so, then take steps to get rid of them and bring back control of life.

Final Thoughts

  • Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs.

  • Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

  • Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced.

  • Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

  • Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

  • The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

  • Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

  • Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic, and you no longer need to consciously set them. They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

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“I just can’t live with my mistakes of the past or my anxiety about the future” ~ from a poem by John Roedel

my brain and
heart divorced

a decade ago

over who was
to blame about
how big of a mess
I have become

they couldn’t be
in the same room
with each other

now my head and heart
share custody of me

I stay with my brain
during the week

and my heart
gets me on weekends

they never speak to one another

– instead, they give me
the same note to pass
to each other every week

and their notes they
send to one another always
says the same thing:

“This is all your fault”

on Sundays
my heart complains
about how my
head has let me down
in the past

and on Wednesday
my head lists all
of the times my
heart has screwed
things up for me
in the future

they blame each
other for the
state of my life

there’s been a lot
of yelling – and crying


lately, I’ve been
spending a lot of
time with my gut

who serves as my
unofficial therapist

most nights, I sneak out of the
window in my ribcage

and slide down my spine
and collapse on my
gut’s plush leather chair
that’s always open for me

~ and I just sit sit sit sit
until the sun comes up

last evening,
my gut asked me
if I was having a hard
time being caught
between my heart
and my head

I nodded

I said I didn’t know
if I could live with
either of them anymore

"My heart is always sad about something that happened yesterday while my head is always worried about something that may happen tomorrow,"

I lamented

my gut squeezed my hand

“I just can’t live with
my mistakes of the past
or my anxiety about the future,”
I sighed

my gut smiled and said:

“in that case,
you should
go stay with your
lungs for a while,”

I was confused
– the look on my face gave it away

“if you are exhausted about
your heart’s obsession with
the fixed past and your mind’s focus
on the uncertain future

your lungs are the perfect place for you

there is no yesterday in your lungs
there is no tomorrow there either

there is only now
there is only inhale
there is only exhale
there is only this moment

there is only breath

and in that breath
you can rest while your
heart and head work
their relationship out.”

this morning,
while my brain
was busy reading
tea leaves

and while my
heart was staring
at old photographs

I packed a little
bag and walked
to the door of
my lungs

before I could even knock
she opened the door
with a smile and as
a gust of air embraced me
she said

“what took you so long?”

~ john roedel (johnroedel.com)

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Skills are developed fastest when they are in alignment with your head, heart and hands, or your thoughts, feelings, and actions.

When I meet most of my clients, they aren't getting results because they are not in alignment. They think one thing, but they feel another thing. They act in a totally different way.

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