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The people I help normally want to achieve three main priorities
  1. They want to exercise personal leadership and take responsibility for themselves and every area of their life.
  2. They want to connect to their values and align these with their vision so that they can set meaningful goals for themselves. 
  3. They want to be more organised, take action, get results, and be supported to achieve success in life
 
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Using the RAPID Results Coaching model I help you to take control, influence your circumstances and give you more certainty and freedom in your life
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Using a step-by-step coaching system backed by science and supported by evidence-based strategies, shortcuts, and systems, I will work with you to help you to identify what your values are and how they align with your vision & goals for your life

We will work together to identify the roadblocks to your success and give you the tools to enable you to release your barriers with ease

You will have more control, more certainty, and more freedom to enjoy life 

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Deciding how best to plan your finances can be daunting. With so many options available and so many uncertainties, how do you choose what’s right for you?

My job is to eliminate as much of that uncertainty as possible and to work with you to identify the most appropriate way for you to achieve your financial goals.

By working through a series of logical steps, I will help you gain a better understanding of the options available, and working together, we can devise and implement a suitable financial plan to target your goals.  

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⬆️I speak Estate Planning fluently

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⬆️I can help you pay less tax

⬆️I can help you structure your Personal Insurance benefits effectively

⬆️I can help structure your Investments so that you have multiple revenue streams

⬆️I understand terms like ESS, ESOP and RSU, and how to help you pay less tax when they vest

⬆️I speak Superannuation fluently

⬆️I can structure your retirement plan so that you have enough income to live a good life

⬆️When you speak to me, I am listening actively to ALL the ways I can help you live the life you desire, and how your finances can support that

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WHY IS THIS HAPPENING FOR ME?

An ending and a beginning.

I have a choice.

I can focus on the ending and ask

"why is this happening to me?"

or

I can focus on the beginning and ask,

"why is this happening for me?"

This is the story of how I used the Art of Problem Solving to turn my life around and (if you need to) how you can turn yours around too

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Each day you have the choice to take control of your life or to let it control you. You can choose to be proactive, or you can be reactive. If you allow various circumstances to take over, you will not have control.

To take control of your life, or exercise personal leadership, is to take responsibility for yourself and every area of your life.

It means being connected with your values and vision and setting meaningful goals for yourself. When you take control, you become more productive and more optimistic. You can tackle and solve problems more easily and experience less stress in your life.

No doubt, with all the chaos and uncertainty going on in the world these days it may be difficult to feel like you are in charge of your life, and while there are some things you have no control over, there are plenty that you do.

Understand that you are the principal architect and creator of your life and where you are now is a result of the choices and decisions you have made thus far.

An interesting concept that you could consider is one whereby you see yourself as the CEO of your own life. If you were to apply this concept to yourself, how would you run your life? What type of strategic planning would you engage in and how would you envision your future? I expect seeing yourself as the CEO of your life would inspire you to think more productively, efficiently, and in a more result-oriented way.

As your own CEO, here are some ways in which you can take control of your life and exercise personal leadership:

✔ Determine your values and what's important to you.  Knowing what you value gives you structure and purpose which, in turn, directs you on how to focus your time and efforts. It would be like a company's 'mission statement'. A mission statement typically defines the overall goals and drives the actions of an organization. It likewise provides a roadmap and guides the decision-making processes for management.

For your life, your mission statement could be something like: "My purpose is to live life to the fullest by taking care of my relationships, finances and overall happiness to the best of my abilities."

When you state your objective so succinctly, you can't help but focus on taking the right actions for where you want to be. Doing so also helps keep you from being aimless and scattered and avoids getting into hit-and-miss situations.

 Plan, be organized, and set goals. Envision the big picture of your desired life and then break it down into manageable parts. For everything you want to accomplish, you need a strategy or action plan. To begin, set goals appropriate to your mission statement and then devise a plan on how to go about achieving them.

Nothing happens by itself; so, take charge of your life - confront a problem head-on. Rather than daydreaming or 'wishing' for what you want, set the wheels for success in motion by goal setting and planning. The planning stages can be fun and challenging! Not only will you achieve your objectives, but you will also sharpen your critical thinking and problem-solving skills in the process.

The most successful CEOs in the world, at the best companies, are those who set realistic, achievable goals, plan the best strategies, and then execute them accordingly. They also set priorities, organize their tasks and duties, and make sure all the different departments are running smoothly and efficiently. There is a famous quote that states, "If you fail to plan, you plan to fail."

✔ Maintain a positive attitude. Sometimes, when your best efforts to take control of your life don't go according to plan, one of the hardest things to do is remain positive. As any CEO will tell you, obstacles and roadblocks inevitably get in the way of any launch or rollout. In a similar example, ask any athlete, inventor, or composer whether every endeavor comes together smoothly for them and without any glitches? Definitely not!

The quality or character trait that separates those who succeed from those who do not is a positive attitude and an unshakable belief in themselves. They do not let negative thoughts or obstacles get in the way of ultimate achievement. Of course, that doesn't mean it's easy; it means that persistence and focus are necessary.

Those who cannot maintain control of their lives often give up at the first sign of trouble or difficulty. When that happens, all else seems to unravel as well, and they mistakenly feel they have no control of anything at all. This type of mindset is both counterproductive and detrimental to progress. Maintaining a positive attitude is essential for taking control of your life.

✔ Have fun. While taking control of your life involves a lot of planning, strategy and executing, it could weigh you down if you forget to take time for some fun. Living a full, productive life requires maintaining a balance between work, relaxation, and recreation. Too much structure makes Jack or Jill a dull person.

To take control of your life try an experiment by envisioning yourself as the CEO of your personal company - your own life. The concept alone will make you feel more in control. Then start making the types of plans, choices, and decisions you would expect a successful CEO to make. It will surprise you how much more in control of your life you will feel. It may take some practice and role playing, but the outcome will be - YOU in control of your life.

What Does it Mean to Take Control of Your Life?

When you take responsibility for all the aspects of your life and have the power to navigate the course of your life path, you are in control of your life. It signifies that you are extremely capable of synchronizing your vision and efforts.

Taking control of your life means that only you keep the power to set goals and bring changes to your life without being influenced by anyone or anything.

“You can influence, direct, and control your own environment. You can make your life what you want it to be.” – Napoleon Hill

All the choices and decisions would be completely under your control. It is entirely up to you if you want to get help from someone. However, the final decision-making power would lie with you.

You get to decide what’s good for you and what’s not? You no longer give the authority and power to anyone or any external circumstances to dictate your life. Taking control of your life means living life on your own terms.

Just remember that when you take control of your life, you give up the blame game. All the decisions become yours to own, so the outcome, whether good or bad, should be accepted by you personally.

What Does It Mean to Set Boundaries?

Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain.

You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

Clear Boundaries

Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration, that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone.

Boundaries are firm lines, determined by you, which cannot be crossed by those around you.

They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

Boundaries Are Not Set to Change

Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people.

They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

Boundaries Are Limits

The purpose of boundaries is to set limits. They are not threats or ultimatums.

They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

Boundaries Inform or Teach

They are not a form of punishment.

10 Steps to Take Control of Your Life

Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life:

1. Self-Awareness Comes First

Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

"You only have control over three things in your life – the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions your take.” – Jack Canfield

You first must become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel.

You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

2. Clear Communication Is Essential

Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries.

Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences.

When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

5. Take Power Back in Your Job

Most people try to balance their lives between the professional and personal areas. However, not everyone is successful in doing so.

Undoubtedly, we live in a professional world where excellence is very overrated. To balance your personal and professional life, you need to pay attention to both facets and be content too!

Not getting the desired promotion, fear of failure or not getting expected salary hike may lead to many negativities. Such instances are supposed to be dealt with extreme determination and earnest effort.

You can bring back control in your job when you try to focus on what is required to achieve the level of excellence, rather than brooding over the past.

Take up additional courses, attend seminars, educate yourself further.

"When you can’t make them see the light, make them feel the heat". – Ronald Reagan

6. Assess the Financial Stress

Unbelievably, almost everyone on this globe is living under some form of financial stress. It is easy to feel that you are losing control if your finances are not in order.

Instead of getting stuck in the vicious cycle of debts, reflect and discover what went wrong.

Analyzing the fundamental factor responsible for this predicament would help you gain a better insight into finding out what must be done next.

If you are overspending on luxurious products for necessities, then you can try switching to affordable options till you get your finances back on track. Prepare a budget and stick to it.

If your current job is insufficient to meet your expenses, consider getting an additional job or finding a new one.

Money is not everything. However, it does give you a feeling of security and a sense of power. Having your finances in order gives you the desired control over life.

7. Outgrow Toxic Relationships

Some people immerse themselves in relationships that cause more harm than good.

“Control your own destiny or someone else will.” – Jack Welch

If you feel stuck into such associations, it can result in events that will twist life beyond your control. You must identify such associations and cut ties for good since there is no point improving your relationships with them.

You can only take control of your life if you do not let toxic relationships change the dynamics of your decision-making.

Do not let anyone unimportant influence your real-life events! A sure-shot way of doing so is by outgrowing such toxic relationships.

8. Practice Positive Self-Talk

The person you see in the mirror is exactly who you are! If you see a confident, smart, and poised person in that mirror, that’s what your life will turn out to be for you. And the same goes with a negative self-image.

“Control your thoughts. Decide about which you will think and concentrate upon. You are in charge of your life to the degree you take charge of your thoughts.” – Earl Nightingale

Learn to give yourself a pep-talk now and then. It’s not crazy talk we suggest! It’s completely the opposite of that!

Positive self-talk is reassuring yourself about your capabilities and achievements! You can take back control of your life when you learn to build a positive image for that person in the mirror.

9. Find Your Support System

We are not super-beings who can go through everything alone. Everyone needs a support system.

This support system might be your friends, family, acquaintance, confidants, or an external group. You need to find a support system to share everything openly.

The people in the support system are your go-to people who are dependable and trustworthy. Whether it’s advice you seek or assistance on any other level, you should be able to count on your support system.

The major advantage of having such a support system is that you maintain control over life and don’t stumble or get stuck.

10. Reflect on Life

Life goes on even when we stop working or thinking. People spend their lives setting goals and getting a sense of accomplishment when they fulfill these goals.

However, it is important to look back on your life and recollect exactly what you planned for.

Sometimes, the major reason for losing control is that things did not turn out to be the way they should have been. Allow yourself time to process everything that is happening or happened over a period of time.

There might be habits that you must have formed or taken an undesired path during a particular phase.

Check if these habits or activities are the sources of your unhappiness. If so, then take steps to get rid of them and bring back control of life.

Final Thoughts

Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs.

Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced.

Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic, and you no longer need to consciously set them.

They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

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